Biblical Law of Marriage
Matthew 5:16-18 New King James
"Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. 17 Do not think that I came to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I did not come to destroy but to fulfill.18 For assuredly, I say to you, till heaven and earth pass away, one jot or one tittle will by no means pass from the law till all is fulfilled."
Here is the law concerning marriage, which Jesus is talking about:
Deuteronomy 22:13-30 New King James
"If any man takes a wife, and goes in to her, and detests her, and charges her with shameful conduct, and brings a bad name on her, and says, "I took this woman, and when I came to her I found she [was] not a virgin", then the father and mother of the young woman shall take and bring out [the evidence of] the young woman's virginity to the elders of the city at the gate. And the young woman's father shall say to the elders, "I gave my daughter to this man as wife, and he detests her. Now he has charged her with shameful conduct, saying, 'I found your daughter [was] not a virgin', and yet these [are the evidences of] my daughter's virginity." And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city. Then the elders of that city shall take that man and punish him; and they shall fine him one hundred [shekels] of silver and give [them] to the father of the young woman, because he has brought a bad name on a virgin of Israel. And she shall be his wife; he cannot divorce her all his days. But if the thing is true, [and evidences of] virginity are not found for the young woman, then they shall bring out the young woman to the door of her father's house, and the men of her city shall stone her to death with stones, because she has done a disgraceful thing in Israel, to play the harlot in her father's house. So you shall put away the evil from among you. If a man is found lying with a woman married to a husband, then both of them shall die -- the man that lay with the woman, and the woman; so you shall put away the evil from Israel. If a young woman [who is] a virgin is betrothed /engaged/ to a husband, and a man finds her in the city and lies with her, then you shall bring them both out to the gate of that city, and you shall stone them to death with stones, the young woman because she did not cry out in the city, and the man because he humbled his neighbor's wife; so you shall put away the evil from among you. But if a man finds a betrothed /engaged/ young woman in the countryside, and the man forces her and lies with her, then only the man who lay with her shall die. But you shall do nothing to the young woman; [there is] in the young woman no sin [deserving] of death, for just as when a man rises against his neighbor and kills him, even so [is] this matter. For he found her in the countryside, [and] the betrothed young woman cried out, but [there was] no one to save her. If a man finds a young woman [who is] a virgin, who is not betrothed /engaged/, and he seizes her and lies with her, and they are found out, 29 then the man who lay with her shall give to the young woman's father fifty [shekels] of silver, and she shall be his wife because he has humbled her; he shall not be permitted to divorce her all his days. A man shall not take his father's wife, nor uncover his father's bed."
It is clear that no ne of the girls that had their first sexual experience were accused of sin, but only those who were engaged or married beforehand, because they had consensual sex with another man, thereby committing an act of adultery. A virgin who engaged in a sexual act whether freely or against her will, was to remain the wife of that man as her husband for the rest of her life.
The only exception was a virgin who freely engaged in a sexual act with a man despite the fact that she was engaged to another man, in this case she was sentenced to death. She had to die when she was caught, because her virginity was promised to the man to which she was engaged. She didnít sin by giving her virginity to another man, but she rebelled against and betrayed her parents, as well as her future husband. So she had to die for the sin of rebellion rather than for the sexual act. However, if she was raped while engaged to another man, and cried, that is, was not willing to do it, then he who raped her had to be killed for his sin, and she was spared, because she was raped and cried (De.22:23-26). Nevertheless she became his wife. The offender who took her by force had to die for his sin in order to make her a widow, and available to her previously angered husband or to another man as a widow.
So again, the first act of sexual intercourse in any possible situation is not a sin, but a lawful marriage, therefore it is not subject to repentance and asking forgiveness. Jesus canít take it away, thatís why He was teaching that man shall not leave his wife, and wife shall not depart from her husband, but if she does, no one has the right to marry a divorced woman, a woman which her husband abandoned, or left him for whatever reason.
Divorce is nothing other than putting away or running away with or without a document, in any case that is only a permanently separated marriage. Not even Jesus can annul a marriage and free a woman from her husband, but
death alone, as it was established by God in the very, very beginning.
So when Moses allowed women to be divorced, he didnít do it as an annulment, but he allowed a woman to be sent away to release her from a hateful environment. Thatís why Jesus said: ďbecause of the hardness of your hearts Moses allowed divorce, but from the beginning it was not soĒ. So Moses did not change the law, he did not allow divorced women to get married again. In those days men could take other women, a virgin as a second wife, because the law didnít prohibit men from having more than one wife.
Every time a virgin is joining with a man in a sexual act, witnessed by Godís angels, the law of God permanently seals them as a marriage by the exchange of their blood, for a lifetime. Thatís why marriage is called a ďcovenant in bloodĒ. That is why breaking the seal of virginity brings forth blood as a sign of permanent and irreversible covenant.
What therefore Godís law joined and sealed let no man take a part, as long as they both are alive. They can separate, but even while separated they are one flesh and a married couple until death.
Today medical science can prove that blood of a man and women exchanges and in some form enters the DNA and their blood is irreversibly mixed. The blood of women receives a trace of men's blood and vice versa. Thatís how sexually transmitted illnesses are passed from person to person, because the virus is in the blood, and in a sexual act blood is exchanged.
In case if a man uses protection to avoid the blood exchange, the angels see him and he is guilty for uncovering a virgin, and trying to get away with it.
Moses commanded a husband to give her a Certificate of Divorce, and people think it was for the reason of her being able to marry again with another man, but that is not true. Moses was Godís prophet and he would not teach or rule against Godís law. He just did it for the hardness of people's hearts
and to make it easy for women being abused by their husbands.
The reason for a Certificate of Divorce was for her not to be considered a run away. In those days women were more or less a property of man. Women were dependent on their husbands for every decision and all kinds of lawful transactions, for example in trade, all kinds of civil issues or finding a job and so forth. Women were denied many rights on behalf of the authority of their husbands, fathers or brothers. A Certificate of Divorce was necessary for women to go about their lives to be able to find a job and do the things that otherwise only husbands were in authority to do. Especially because they could not marry as long as their husbands were alive.
But did divorced women remain alone for the rest of their lives? Probably not, in fact it was next to impossible for a woman to remain unmarried, because it was very difficult to support herself without a man. Women often defiled themselves by engaging in unlawful marriages with other men committing sins of adultery. Much as it is today.
Deuteronomy 24:2-4 New King James
"...when she has departed from his house, and goes and becomes another man's [wife], [if] the latter husband detests her and writes her a certificate of divorce, puts [it] in her hand, and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her as his wife, [then] her former husband who divorced her must not take her back to be his wife after she has been defiled; for that [is] an abomination before the LORDÖ"
Now, many people wonder why the bible is only talking about a womanís virginity, and there is no word about a manís virginity. That is because man is in authority over a woman, and man is not accountable to a woman. Women need to be pure to man, and accountable to man, and man needs to be pure to God, and accountable to Him. Thatís why women are sealed with virginity for the visible sign to man, so that he can hold her accountable.