It comes down to making yourself happy. If she makes you happy then pursue it. But do it slowly. During the months I was just 'friends' with Brandy I noticed I was starting to be more self-centered not realizing what she was going through. I wanted things 'my' way. I quickly stopped that and my attitude slowly changed to wanting her to be happy with whoever she chooses. Things just natually progressed over time. During that time I dated others, but my heart was with her. She felt the same way but the guy she was with, she was with for 8 years. I wanted her to be sure of her decision & didn't want to rush her into it..