You're way too picky, or you're looking for instant gratification. With that standard, I think you and a lot of folks will be on that dating site for a very long time..
Your pic looks good..
brunette hair highlights laying on her side tummy (!) smile closed eyes green beach towel outside outdoors water sand maroon nailpolish tan lines black bikini zoom.
Anyway, all the insecurities and uncertainties you are facing are exactly the same as what a guy would have to face. It has to do with the person making the move - man or women, they are faced with the same set of self doubt, ambiguity, confusion, the whole thing..
Man she is fucking hot..